I’ve always had faith in God. To most people’s surprise, I wasn’t raised religious but somewhere in the midst of my anxiety as a child, I found my way to God.
I’ve not been very open about it with many people. My father was raised catholic and tends to come off as a very strict religious man, but he is not. My mother’s religious, but has to do so very privately because if she brings it up at all, my father just gets upset. Therefore, I too have had to be quite quiet about any beliefs I have in God.
When I met Lacy we would often talk about God. She’s one of the few people I have ever discussed my beliefs with, even if she does not believe herself. I remember trying to prove it to her. “Love!” I would say, “it’s a beautiful thing and once you experience it, you’ll know there’s a God because it’s not something human…and it’s not something scientific, it’s something that had to be created by a God.” I would tell her you could see God in a sunset, or on a cloudless warm day. It was so simple to me. “Everything happens for a reason” I would tell her, and God makes sure it happens that way.
I never got through to her. I know she still dosen’t believe…and for the first time in my life, I’m having doubts. I’m not saying I don’t believe. Right now, I have to believe, but not for the reasons I used to or for the reasons I want to. I feel like I’m being forced into believing. I don’t have anything else to believe in. I don’t have anything else to have faith in. I have to believe in God in order to have hope that one day, however it is going to happen, things are going to get better.
This is testing my faith though. God works in mysterious ways, they say. But does he rip people’s hearts out in order to teach them a lesson? Is that even right? The God I used to believe in…he wouldn’t do that. So many nights I have prayed now just to have the pain taken away. Somehow, just take it away. I have asked him to hold me up and comfort me and help me…but here I am yet again, on the verge of tears wondering why why why.
Last night when I prayed I asked God for a sign. “Anything!” I cried out over and over again as tears rolled down my face. Anything so I would know if nothing else he’s out there. That way I could know even if he wasn’t taking my thoughts into consideration, he was listening. A sign I said, anything, just please let me know when I see the sign. I want to have faith in you, I begged, let me have faith in you, help me have faith in you. And I just don’t know.
Maybe I’m overthinking it, like I tend to do with SO much of my life and maybe I did get my sign, but I just don’t know. There were so many things, but nothing jumped and I still don’t understand and I still…I just don’t know.
There was a cloudless blue sky today…but it didn’t feel as beautiful. I read a few blog posts that spoke to me, but none said exactly what I wanted to hear. Mike tried so desperately to comfort me when I cried today, but I just don’t feel any better.
I don’t know. I just don’t know. If there’s a God out there…how can he do this to me? I understand suffering must come in order for there to be compassion, but I’m already so weak. I’ve begged for mercy, begged God to take the pain away. I’ve tried so hard to push through it time and time again, but I’m so far past my breaking point.
I wonder, how can God do this to me? How can God let me love someone so much, then take him away, then give me a chance that he’ll still come back and have that chance just go on and on and on. I know what I did wrong, I know how to fix it…but if I’m not going to have the change to fix it, than I would have rather not learned the lesson. I feel like my heart is being ripped out over and over again and I just can’t take it anymore. The God I knew…the God I thought I knew…I didn’t think he would do that.
I’m still trying to have faith, but I’m having a hard time trusting. I’ll continue to pray, and continue to search for God…but only out of hope that one day I’ll find him. I just can’t accept this life without a God. I can’t do that to myself. Even if it’s simply keep myself sane. I have to believe. I just hope, I just pray, that no matter how he does it, he can mend my broken heart and take my pain away soon. It’s not a matter of not knowing how much more I can take. I’m already at my breaking point, it’s just a matter of when I’m going to break down, but I can’t keep going much longer with this load.